Turkey, mashed and sweet potatoes, and stuffing? High school football games? A house full of energy and happiness.
T-Day is a time to take stock and give thanks for our blessings, gifts, and those in our lives. Wishing everyone joy and excitement, not only on Thanksgiving but every day throughout the calendar year.
Thanksgiving is the first significant break in the action for college and career students, especially first-year students arriving home since leaving in September. As the father of four, I can report that the break can be an interesting time for parents and returning students. We are anxious to learn everything, while students are interested in the three R’s: refueling, reconnecting, and recharging their batteries. They can be talkative or quiet.
Parents do not despair.
Remember, they’re on break when you pick them up. I remember how difficult it was to refrain from quizzing them when picking them up at college. I was anxious to learn about their classes, friends, and activities. Most rides quickly became quiet as they fell asleep (three out of four), and I listened to smooth jazz.
The moment will come when it’s time to ask questions and dig into how campus life is going—and if there are potential bumps in the road. As parents, we must listen for signs and be patient. Please send them to the T-Day football game and feed them. Then, inquire about the first semester. If they’re struggling, let them know it’s normal, but encourage them to consult with academic support, resident life, and search for a club or organization to get active. Thanksgiving is a wee bit past the semester’s midpoint. Your student has three weeks to “crush it” before the end of the semester and Christmas break. Address things now.
For high school students and families, Thanksgiving is a significant benchmark in the college planning calendar.
- By now, seniors (families) should have submitted 99% of their admission applications and the FAFSA (maybe CSS Profile). Their eyes should be on watching the college portals and emails for information, plus hunting for scholarships.
- If students are undecided, the break can be a perfect time to discuss the next steps. No one path after high school fits everyone, even if that’s what you hear (feel). Work, community college, service, apprenticeship, and a structured gap year all work!
- Finally, juniors (and 10th graders), it’s time to turn up the heat on your college planning, including creating a resume, thinking about living in a dorm, and how big is too big (campus), and where do you draw the line on distance from home. Come January, you’re building a list, learning how to evaluate options, and where to visit during February school break.
- Parents, your role is to oversee this work and learn how you’ll pay for post-secondary education.
Thanksgiving break is an exciting and busy period. Enjoy the chance to refuel, converse, and stay ahead of pressing deadlines and tasks.
Wishing all a very Happy Thanksgiving.
